tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-569497739006959608.post3785300630409886807..comments2024-01-01T21:25:23.743-06:00Comments on Frum Gay Girl: MARRY AWAY THE GAYAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04731936564891970650noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-569497739006959608.post-19440361002429981362013-09-15T19:31:12.326-05:002013-09-15T19:31:12.326-05:00Thank you Frum Gay Girl and Y: What an amazing jou...Thank you Frum Gay Girl and Y: What an amazing journey you have had so far. Mazel Tov on the journey, and may you have only the greatest happiness!Dana Friedmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07815753978538044084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-569497739006959608.post-26801768537233392932013-09-12T11:35:44.186-05:002013-09-12T11:35:44.186-05:00This part of the interview was omitted accidentall...This part of the interview was omitted accidentally and I think it is the most important part<br /><br />Hi Y. Can you tell us about your experiences with therapy, especially within the frum community?<br />I had a therapist who gave me a book called “Coming Out Straight” to help me to be straight. It was such a bullshit book. It talked about “same sex attraction disorder” and it talked about how to cure something that isn’t a disorder but just part of life. I didn’t even return the book to her. I threw it in the garbage. It was one of the worst books I’ve ever read. She was a frum therapist and she thought there was something wrong with me. She was part of the reason I became a therapist, so that there would be good and knowledgeable therapists for LGBT people in the frum community.<br /> <br />There was a different therapist who said I can’t be gay if I’ve never had a relationship with a woman because I’d never had any experiences. At the time, I didn’t realize how heterosexist she was being. I did tell her that I am definitely a lesbian. What I said to her was, “How does a 16 year old boy know that he is straight?” She was also not so respectful about my Jewish life, about my Chabad beliefs. With therapists, you need to find people who are culturally sensitive, both with Judaism and gay life. (LINK to good therapists)<br /> <br />What was the best day of your life?<br />When I got licensed as a marriage and family therapist, it was a really great day. It was an accumulation of many years of work. It had been such a long road and it was a big accomplishment, and it came at the end of a whole journey, becoming okay with myself and feeling comfortable with myself. To me, it’s not just a piece of paper, but it’s a symbol of being in an emotionally healthy place.<br /> <br />If you could ask the frum community anything, what would you ask?<br />Please find a way to include people who are frum and gay. Sexuality is at the core of who we are. It’s really essential to find a way that people can have both identities, and not find themselves excluded. People end up giving up being frum because of the intense rejection, and because being gay is where they find love. People can’t live without being loved. Find ways to make people feel at home, loved, accepted, part of the community. Help people feel that they aren’t just tolerated, but are a wonderful and blessed part of the community, so they can reach their potential.Yisraela Haymanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17951488453650746928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-569497739006959608.post-22574259179161952812013-09-11T23:24:51.531-05:002013-09-11T23:24:51.531-05:00For some reason, some people are having difficulty...For some reason, some people are having difficulty posting here, not sure why. But this comment was from a reader, Yael, who tried, and eventually sent it to me instead<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04731936564891970650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-569497739006959608.post-77175671413860638172013-09-11T23:24:03.836-05:002013-09-11T23:24:03.836-05:00Your bravery and sincerity shines through Yisrael....Your bravery and sincerity shines through Yisrael. I wish you love, partnership, and belonging. Your authenticity inspires me. Much love, Yael. xoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04731936564891970650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-569497739006959608.post-48628405763956392762013-09-11T19:39:37.775-05:002013-09-11T19:39:37.775-05:00This interview blew my mind...
20 effin yrs wow
An...This interview blew my mind...<br />20 effin yrs wow<br />And ive also recently been advised to see my spouses point of view to be less reactive and more placid calm and concerned<br />WowAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01065148123283345603noreply@blogger.com